I have covered relationships, intimate relationships, and loving relationships so far. They are all part of the social intelligence package, your ability to blend and get on with people. Social intelligence is the most important intelligence since only by being with people you will achieve satisfaction, and fulfillment in life. 85% of success is achieved with people. You will get kicked out of a few places and then you will realize how good it is to get on well with others.
Social intelligence, how to gather this
All my life I had problems with people and it is fair to say that only these days do I get on well with people. My friendly nature has brought me to these days. Even if I feel good with people, the game of numbers is not for me. Since you could not get further in life I need to learn the game of numbers. Since you could not go further in life, I needed to learn the game of numbers. This game of numbers was probably invented thousands of years ago and I hate it. Everybody sounds the same, everybody has the same answers. Even the assertiveness of people is the same, or better said there are only finite numbers of models of assertiveness. With the word ‘sorry’, I always crack a joke so as not to sound the same, regardless of people’s age. Despite me not liking the game you will need to learn it, to know it well. If you land in a group you do not be the first or the last one in the group, being in the middle is the best policy and it saves you a lot of energy. Also, very important is to assert yourself, make sure you assert yourself. You might have a hard time doing it but you need to do it. Until the age of 35, I did not do any assertiveness. I was living in my world withdrawn and shy Make sure you will know the people in a position of power, just to know how to deal with the situation. You also do not want to annoy them. The way of getting along with people is by the game of numbers. There are people in this world that only know the game of numbers and get on well with people and they even stayed married.
In a group of people as soon as you meet them stay back until you know them. Let others do the talking. When you find what they are really about then you can integrate into the group. Be aware of people some are more external like Australians, some are more internal like me and others are in between or more balanced. Your self-esteem will enhance your ability to get on well with others(with self-esteem the less you fear anything). Enhancing someone’s else self-esteem will increase yours as well. E.g: “You put so much effort into your job”. The compliment should be sincere and done immediately. If you are not sincere people would pick it up and that would not be a compliment. Practice some replies for yourself during the day. They would become very handy. Some people would practice in front of televisions. Be assertive and you get plenty of respect and they will let you stay there in their place. A nice and easy way of practicing social skills is to have a group of people you meet every day of the week on different days. That would make you practice social skills. Also, you should get a job in which you get social skills. Something I want to say is not to lose yourself in the game of numbers just because you practice it every day. After all, is only a game. And the more you accept it as a game, the better your life. Something you need to know is to hold your own, this is the ultimate goal in social intelligence.